Coping Strategies Tips In Office Affair

According to a survey conducted by the site divorcepeers, 68% of women had cheated by a partner and 78% of those undergoing an unhappy marriage because of it. Of all men who had an affair, 80% had been caught red-handed and 64% of them prefer to maintain the marriage. Indeed, love can come at any time. Including 'forbidden love affair', ie an affair with co-workers who have a family. But who says you can not get around? Can! Here is a surefire tips to overcome / avoid an affair in your workplace:

1. Be Decisive. Do you know, to whom you first have to be firm? To himself. Because this is where the greatest source. Circumvent other people much easier than dodging yourself. You must be from the beginning to convince myself that this relationship does not lead anywhere. Love indeed can come anytime, to anyone. Not necessarily with the "father of it". If you are able to be firm, said the feeling, then you can advance to the next stage, that is to be firm to him. Always be consistent with the statement "Yes" and "No" that you say, if once you say "No", then hang on to it. You will make a firm stand undaunted and orderly retreat.

2. Trying to silence. The next step, do not open or open with communication. Forget the phone, SMS, or just chit-chat in the public domain. Be the mute him. When you meet her at the office elevator, for example, smile. but do not have to open up the opportunity to speak. If she asks, answer sufficiently. Do you answer questions such as other co-workers and do a smile, without the need to attach the face of war. Your attitude is silent, but still smiling, would make him feel too fence. You more visible Untouchables.

3. Invite a Friend. Lets say you and he are in the same community. Either friends work together, a building or a hobby group. You certainly do not want to lose your job or leave your community, just because he's right? There is an easy way to overcome this condition. Invite your friends to always be around you. Do not give yourself a chance alone. Be casual, as if he had only one small part of your community. That sounds good if you want to equate premises chair, table or other property that is not important. The attitude you do not think there is, would make him retreat.

4. Contact partner. When she called again and again because you are not answering the phone, then call him back. But do not call cell phone. Contact your home phone or mobile partner. If necessary, contact his home when he was with his wife. Habit like this will make kapok contact you again. You also will be free from 'terror call'.

5. Looking for couples. As long as she knows you still own, then he will always see hope. Therefore, if you're interested, look for someone else. There are still so many qualified people out there (and single!) Who will love you sincerely. If you have not got another couple interested, be you already have a partner when in front of him. Either tell someone he occasionally showed himself tau was with other people (invite your male friends)

6. More Independent. During this time it was he who drove pick you, you might even recognize the difficulty the client's office because usually she who drove. From now on, you have to be more independent.

7. Other mentors. He is your mentor. He is temapt you ask and lamented. And you feel, only he who knows you well. Do not be Wrong! The man or woman is still a lot of his caliber. They have not you found because you are busy with it. From now on, look for a new mentor. He could be your boss, a friend in another room or even father / mother you (how long you do not ask for their consideration?)

8. Develop Self. Now is the time to find out. You want to develop yourself in what area. Make a plan, and then collated into a work program. For example, you start registering for the course or anything else that can support your self development. Or, you become more lightly now enrolled in a scholarship abroad. A lot of interesting things out there, with a clear target, a goal that looks, from the air fatigue with "father's".

9. List of "Sin". Still trouble me forget it? Still crying "wailing" when remembering when alone in the room? Adna Please make a list of "sins". Make a list of advantages when you're with him. After that you can compile a list of losses was also with him. Surely it would be more panjang. Make a final list of ills, this would strengthen Further you to no longer deal with her.